The Pros and Cons of having a double culture
In this day and age of globalisation, multiculturalism, low cost travels and what not, it’s getting easier and easier to meet and get to know people from all around the world
And As it sometimes happen, people meet, fall in love, get married and have lots of beautiful mixed babies.
It has become pretty common now to have a sort of double background. By that I mean having parents from two different countries.
And I can count myself as part of that lucky crew, the mixed people crew, hell yaass! Having a French father and a Thai Mom I can say that I received quite a good combination.
Where do I fit in?
I am so thankful to them that they chose the non traditional way and married outside their usual social circles. Just imagine how boring it would have been if I’d only been 100 percent french! (not that it’s a bad thing mind you!… I’m trying really hard to be politically correct here, people get triggered sooo fast!) So okay I got the best of both worlds… but then what? Where do you really belong?
When I was 7 or 8 I had the chance to go to school in Thailand, because having lived in France the whole time before, my parents felt it was time for me to experience some of my thai heritage.
I remember vaguely back then that when I was in France people were a bit confused about where I came from. Because I looked kinda european but not really tough… like I had some weird features that did not match the usual caucasian canvas. My classmates were like… what are you? some kind of weird hybrid? The fact is, the eurasian look was not that common at that time I think.
Learning about my Thai Heritage
And it was the same experience when I went to school in Thailand, but more intense. I did not know any thai (shame on me) and was really unaware of the culture there. I was really out of my depths and for a 7 year old to transition from a french school to a thai one was a really weird experience. I managed though and having a flexible brain at that age you pick up the language quite easily. The more time I spent there, the more I began to act like a thai girl. However the way I was treated was still the same. It was still considered like I was a foreigner. I sort of looked like one, I had recognisable european features and did not look like other thai girls. When I was hanging out with my cousins and were meeting new people, they were like, who is the “Farang” girl with you? “Farang” is the thai word for foreigner, and for some reason I began to resent that word and see it almost as an insult when someone would say that to me. Yeah… because, in the end I’m not really a “Farang”, I actually am half Thai. I felt like I deserved to be considered like one of them.
France VS Thailand
Because I look more european than asian, it’s easier for me when someone asks to say: oh yes I’m just french. But in the end, a part of me feels really sad because I know that it’s not true. It feels like I’m giving up a part of myself. I want to embrace both cultures and shout to the world YES I am French guys (obviously my accent! Duh!) But I am also Thai!! (I know how to make a mean red Thai curry!)
So In the end the aim of this article is just to say to all mixed people out there, it can be hard sometimes to find your place. You might feel like you don’t belong anywhere, like you don’t feel at home or not at ease. Just embrace both cultures, learn from it, try as much as possible to adapt to both cultures and in the end you might emerge as a more tolerant , open minded and awesome person.
P.S : Just wanted to do a quick shout out to a few of my favourites personalities who really inspired me
- Chrissy Teigen : My half Thai muse (same as you John Legend)
- Olivia Munn : wish I could be as gorgeous as her half American half Chinese self…
- Keanu Reeves : John Wick you dah man! American man with Chinese roots yeah!
Cheers – À Bientôt – สวัสดีค่ะ